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Friday, March 31, 2017

Spring Cleaning: How to keep twin baby clothes organized



Tiny baby clothes are so cute.  All the little onesies, tiny pants, itty bitty socks- adorable.  You know what isn't so adorable?  How frustrating it can be to keep all those tiny clothes organized as your baby grows!  Two babies means almost twice the number of clothes, and special sets that are meant to be worn together.   We were very fortunate to get a lot of hand me downs and gifts from friends and family that keep the girls in style.  But I need to stay on top of it!  I find the first year to two years the hardest to keep organized.  I hate when I find an outfit that is super cute but too small because I forgot we had it!  So here is how I keep our twins clothes organized.


First off, so general tips.  These work for all babies, not just twins.  I do utilize them with my girls.

Gone box, right in the closet.
1) The gone box.  Right from the start, put a giveaway box or bag in the bottom of the closet or somewhere in your kids room.  If you find something that no longer fits, put it right in that box.  Have something that you just honestly don't think you will dress your child in?  It goes in the box.  If you aren't 100% sure, put it in there anyway.  You can always go back in a get the item if you change your mind.  Chances are you will forget about it, which means you didn't need it anyway.  This can be useful as kids get older too.  My son had a pair of pajamas he adored, but they really didn't fit anymore.  He didn't want to give them up, but we have a bag in his closet to put in clothes to give to his little cousin.  Knowing that he was giving his favorite pajamas to his little cousin made him happy to part with them.  You can also just grab the bag when it is full and send it off to wherever you like to donate.  Easy.

Too big box, handy to check.
2) Keep the next size nearby.  By this I mean if you have space keep another bin with the next size up in the child's room.  If the next size is stored away in an attic or basement you are less likely to remember to look through it.  Anyone else go out and buy something only to find out you already had what you needed tucked away for later?  I have sadly done this several times.  Being able to take a quick peek has let me save a lot of money from buying something we already have, and it helps me from missing the window to wear things saved for later.



3) Review your inventory.  Go through your too big bin on a regular basis.  What regular means is up to you.  I used to go through every season change.  It let me pull out the items we would need as it got warmer or colder.  I would also get rid of anything in the current closet that would be outgrown before the weather changed back.  Now that we have basically one season- hot and hotter- I have to be a bit more on top of things.  I set aside an evening every couple of months and sort through clothes.  No, it isn't the most exciting way to spend a night.  But again, it is better than missing items my kids could have worn or wasting money on something we already have.

These tips have helped me stay on top of my son's clothes, and now my daughters.  Twin clothes can be a little more work though.  I like to coordinate the girls' clothes.  They don't usually match exactly, but they usually go together pretty well.  This is part personal preference part a crazy fear that one baby will be seen as the favorite because she has the 'cuter' outfit.  (I know, Pat says I'm crazy but I can't help it.)  We have gotten some outfits that are obviously meant to be worn together.  Others I put together out of what we have.  Double the little girl clothes can take over any storage space you have.  Fortunately I have a system in place that makes it pretty easy to keep it contained and still let me find what I am looking for.

1) Stick to basics.  This can be hard, because as I said baby clothes are so cute.  The easiest way to coordinate outfits is to focus on tops with neutral bottoms.  This leggings, jeggings, black pants, that sort of thing.  It is easy to grab two bottoms and they go with almost all the tops.  I do have some pants and top outfits for the girls, but that tends to just be more pieces to keep track of.  This way I can have fewer bottoms, which saves money.

Bins are awesome! This is about 90% of the girls clothes.
2) Utilize bins instead of hanging in the closet.  Hanging up tiny clothes can be very annoying.  Even with little hangers they fall a lot.  I keep most of the girls' clothing in bins, folded sideways so I can see what I am working with.  I find bins can store more, are easier to organize, and easier to sort through.  I can quickly grab all the girls clothes out of their room and organize them while they sleep.  I use two big bins and one little one.  The big bins have long sleeve and long pants in one, with short sleeve and shorts in the other.  The little bin is for pajamas.  It works really well.  And yes, these two bins hold almost 90% of my girls clothes.  (The other 10% is things like coats, hoodies, and specialty outfits.)  You really don't need that much for them!  I have found it is easier to dress them and really enjoy their cute clothes if I keep quantity down.  Less money, less mess, and more enjoyment of my favorite clothes?  Wins all around.

3) Store specialty items in the closet.  The things that aren't used as much like holiday outfits, special pairs of dresses, jerseys if you are a sport family, are perfect for the closet.  These items can get lost or forgotten about.  Having them hanging in the closet gives you a visual reminder, and they aren't lost in the daily wear.  This is also a good place for gifts you don't love from people you do.  You can remember it is there, get a picture when it fits, and not have to make excuses.

Every shirt is paired up.
One set, two girls dressed.
4) Store clothes in outfit pairs.  When I get new clothes for the girls, I immediately pair them up how I want the girls to wear them.  They stay together from that point out.  This way when I have to get the girls dressed in the morning I only have to choose one set, not two outfits.  It sounds little, but it saves a lot of time and decision making.





So you have your kids clothes' stored.  What do you do when you want to sort through them without a lot of hassle?  Every couple of months I go through the girls' current and next size up clothes, along with Ben's next size up clothes.  (Now that he is three he isn't growing quite as fast, so it's easier to keep with as we dress him every day.)  They are all in bins, which makes it easy to pull them into the living room.  I love my kids, but it is so much easier to do this sort of thing without their help.  One thing to remember to do is grab something of each child that currently fits well. I use that as my size check if I am unsure about an item.  I just use whatever the child wore that day.



I make this process as fun as I can. I make sure we are watching a show I enjoy, and I have something tasty to drink or eat.  Start with the current clothes.  Look at each item and ask yourself if you want your baby to keep wearing it.  Maybe it doesn't work with the current weather.  Maybe you just don't like it as much as you thought you did.  Be ruthless.  If you haven't dressed your child in it since the last clean out, you probably don't need it.  If you aren't sure about a size you have your known fit item right there to compare it to.  If it is too small, get rid of it.
Once I have gone through the current clothes I go through the next size up bin.  For twins that means making sure I have outfits I want to go together matched.  Not every twin mom cares about this, but it matters to me.  This is another times to be ruthless.  If you can't picture your kids wearing something, get rid of it!  This can be hard, especially with hand me downs.  But if you honestly don't think you will dress your child in something don't keep it cluttering up your child's clothes.

If you are like me, you might have a hard time getting rid of these sweet baby clothes.  This is where the husband comes in.  His job is to remind me that I am not throwing away pieces of my babies' childhoods by getting rid of old clothes.  It sounds silly, but sometimes I need the back up to remember they are just clothes.  Sure, I save a couple of things.  I have all the outfits my babies have worn home from the hospital.  But there will always be another favorite outfit, and there will always be more cute clothes.  If you need help staying strong- that's okay!  It also helps to think of more sweet babies making memories in these tiny clothes.  Someone will be happy to get what you no longer need.

This seems like a lot.  Fortunately after the first year and a half keeping up with your kids clothes gets easier.  They stop growing as fast, and they start to develop preferences.  As annoying as it can be that they no longer just wear whatever I want, it is one less decision I have to make when they pick out their own clothes.  I like to pick my battles, and usually it isn't worth arguing over clothing.  I love using the bin system, and as your children age and stop going through an entire wardrobe every three months it gets easier to use the traditional hang up method.  Then the bins can be freed up for other storage!

This is all kind of a lot for clothing for tiny humans.  I just hate when I either spend money on something we already have, or forgetting to dress my babies in something because it is saved for later.  It is only for a short time though.  Once kids stop growing quite as fast it is much easier to keep up with their clothes.

What suggestions do you have for organizing baby clothes?  Comment and let me know what works for you!

-Kim

And if you need some cute twin outfits to pair up, check out my review of My Twins Are Cuter!  Super cute clothes for twins and twin moms, and a promo code for 20% off your first purchase!  You can also head to My Twins Are Cuter to see all the designs yourself!

Wednesday, March 29, 2017

My Twins Are Cuter: The twin clothes you need to see (plus a promo code!)

(Disclosure: Products were received for free in exchange for this post.  All opinions are honest and my own.)

"Two for the price of one, huh?"  Any other twin mom hear that just about every time they are out?  (Among with other things.)  I usually just smile and nod when I hear this.  In my head I want to yell, "No!  Two for the price of two!"  Just because two babies were born at the same time does not mean you get out of paying for one of their needs.  The trade off is worth it- I have two sweet babies to love.  But it can make the budget a bit more challenging.



I am strict with myself when it comes to the girls' clothes. It can be so annoying.  Little girl clothes are so cute!  Oh, and having twins.  I totally want to take advantage of dressing them in whatever I want while they are still little and don't have a say in what they wear.  I will totally confess to enjoying dressing them alike.   I mean, I have twins, why not have some fun with it?  Let me tell you how excited I was to learn about My Twins Are Cuter.

My Twins Are Cuter is a site with clothing just for twins and twin moms!!  It was founded by Dawn, a twin mom (who else to better get what other twin moms are looking for?) after her twins noticed she liked to point out her twins were cuter.  What mom doesn't think that?  We all want our twins to be the cutest, and she is helping us out with it.  Let me tell you a few things I like about this site.  

1) Almost everything is sold in a set.  I know it sounds silly, but having to go back and order a second of something or find a coordinating outfit of another gender can be enough to make me say no.  One click and you have both items.  
2) There is a size chart!  It's a little thing, but Ali and Sammy have outfits that they currently wear sized 6 months through 18 months.  A whole year is represented there!  It is a bit ridiculous.  Having a size chart makes me feel like I am actually getting the right size.  
3) There are clothes for all gender combos!  Boy/boy, girl/boy, girl/girl.  They are all there.
4) The designs are simple, clean, and CUTE.  Sometimes you don't want the cheesy sayings, just something a little less overt.  All of the designs incorporate the number 2, but aren't shouting 'Twins!' at you.  This is awesome in case one of the kids spills on their outfit.  The other child can wear the top without looking silly if they aren't paired up with someone.  
5) All shipping in the US is $5.  Now, I normally am an Amazon Prime type of person.  But this is a reasonable amount.  The consistency makes it easier to budget for an plan ahead for future purchases!
6) The prices are decent.  These are specialty items, so it isn't like you are going to completely outfit your twins in them all the time.  But they are very accessible.  Most of the items are $25-$30 a set- so that is for two pieces.  That is really not bad!  And they aren't limited to a certain holiday or time of year to wear them.  I can see me getting a lot of use out of these.

My favorite part- My Twins Are Cuter is giving Team Cartwright readers a special discount code! Put TWINMOMBLOG into the coupon code spot in your cart to get 20% off your first order!  Yay!  

Dawn very generously sent the girls and me a couple of tops to try out.  Ali and Sammy got the Whimsical Whale onesies and I got the"I love my twins" distressed ink tee.  I love them all.  They came in a cute package.  I know that doesn't really matter if the product is no good, but it is so nice to get something fun and pretty in the mail.

Pretty mail!  Yay!
Even Ben wanted to see what we got!  
Love them!!!
The girls got their onesies in the 18 month size, so they are a little big.  (Ali and Sammy are 14 months now.) I prefer to get bigger so they have more time to wear them.  With it already warm around here, so they will get a lot of use out of these.  I love the cute design.  The onesies are 100% cotton, great for baby skin.  The girls looked so cute in them!  Of course getting pictures of my two little busy bees was, well, quite the challenge.  All I can say is that I tried.

Mommy has the camera out, scatter!
  I was able to get one at a time pictures.

Ali!!
Sammy!
 This is the best I could do of them together.
Sammy is less than thrilled, Ali just doesn't care.

I was a much easier model to work with, if I do say so myself.  I adore my shirt!  I think it is super cute, but not something too over the top I'll feel silly wearing it.  And I do love my twins!  The fit is great and it is nice and soft.  There are grandparent shirts too!  You know grandparents love to show off their grandbabies and talk about them.  These shirts are a great conversation starter!

I do love my twins!
My twins are so cute!
Check out this site.  It is great for twin moms, twin grandparents, and soon to be twin moms.  I think these clothes are prefect if you know someone pregnant with twins too!  My Twins Are Cuter.  Love these clothes!
-Kim




My Twins Are Cuter


And for everyone's amusement- some of the outtakes.

Sammy loved the bag the clothes came in.  She would not give it up!  She is tiny but fierce.
I tried sitting them at the wall.  They just tried to get the outlet.
We tried the couch.  Nope.
Someone always tries to escape! 
I put a blanket down to lure them.  It caught a big bro too.
A sweet moment...
... and it's over.
Modeling is exhausting.  So is trying to wrangle a couple of babies.

Happy Cartwright girls!

Thursday, March 2, 2017

Activities your preschooler and baby can enjoy together


You know how it goes.  Your preschooler wants to play with you, but your baby is sitting up, crawling, maybe even walking, and wanting to be a part of the action.  If you have more than one child (and not through having multiples) you have gone through the phase when you need an activity for your older child, but your younger child isn't as content to just sit and watch anymore.  This can be made more challenging when your baby is in the get-into-everything phase, and still putting everything in her mouth.  It is one thing to set them up with two different things to do, but sometimes you only want to deal with one set of toys, one activity, one focus.  Plus it would be nice to foster a little sibling play.  Here are 10 activities you can do with no or minimal set up that foster development and fun for toddlers, preschoolers, and older babies.

Take a walk.  Little kids and babies all love to be outside.  Wear your baby or put her in the stroller.  Grab your older child and off you go.  Talk about what you see, what you feel, what you smell.  Use all the senses you can.  The movement will keep your baby happy, your older child can run around a bit, and you get some exercise too.

Read a book.  Any time I read to my older child my younger ones come crawling over to hear the story.  All kids benefit from hearing stories read out loud.  The baby might need some toys to play with while they listen, but they can do that while you read.  If your older child is interested, have them 'read' to the baby.  They will like feeling like the teacher to the younger child, and the younger child will love that big sibling is paying attention to them.  Bonus to this it could carry on as the kids get older, creating a great sibling bonding tradition.

Have a dance party.  My kids have had some sweet moves since they were very young, and none of them can resist a good beat.  Big kids love to dance and run to the music, little ones like to wiggle and hear it too.  Music boosts brain development.  Make a play list of preschool songs with motions in them to practice some gross motor skills, or just groove to your favorite songs.

Make a blanket jump.  Take some blankets, pillows, or towels and toss them around the floor.  Have the older child jump from blanket to blanket a la the floor is lava.  This gets lots of energy out and works gross motor skills.  Mobile babies will enjoy crawling from blanket to blanket to mimic their sibling, also getting some energy out.  The different textures work as sensory play.  You can can customize the theme of this to match your child's interests.  Jump from meteor to meteor in space, use lily pads in a pond, be monkeys in treetops, and of course the lava standby.

Start a pots and pans band.  Grab your pots and pans and some wooden spoons and go to town.  Your older child can practice mimicking rhythms with you.  They can count out beats.  They can also compare different sounds from different size pots.  Your baby can just enjoy making big noises.  They can turn the pots over and practice putting things in and out of the pot.  I've seen wooden spoons used for teething toys, so this could be a good one during those tough times.

Play with blocks.  Regular blocks, Mega Bloks, shoe boxes, it doesn't matter what the blocks are, just let them build.  Older children can practice stacking, working on hand eye coordination.  With Mega Bloks you can talk about same vs. different concepts.  You can practice identifying some colors and counting.  You can work in imaginative play by building castles or barns or houses, whatever your child is into.  Babies can work on hand eye coordination with basic stacking and grabbing of blocks.  For a bonus interaction, encourage your older child to build a tower and let baby knock it down.  Both children will be practicing cause and effect skills, while also focusing on patience as they wait for the tower to be built and then knocked down.

Race cars down a ramp.  Grab a box or stiff poster board and make a ramp for cars to drive down.  Older children can compare different size cars as they go down the ramp. They can try to use different levels of force to push them down.  Babies can either hang out at the base and try to catch the cars, or they can sit at the top of the ramp and push them down themselves.  They will practice hand eye coordination and releasing objects on purpose.  Both age levels will reinforce cause and effect ideas.  They will be seeing how the natural world works in terms of gravity and acceleration.  It can also be an exercise in taking turns.

Do yogurt painting.  This is a messy one.  Get some yogurt, add a little food coloring (or not, your choice), and go to town finger painting!  The big benefit of the yogurt is of course that babies can get in their mouths without you worrying too much.  Older kids can see how colors can combine to form new ones.  They can paint on paper or just on plate that they rinse off and start over with.  Babies can smear it all around the tray of their high chair.  This is great sensory play for both ages, and a lot of fun.  Plan this one for before bath time though.

Play kitchen.  Have your older child make play food for you and baby.  Baby is going to put everything in their mouth anyway, so they will really be in character.  You and your littlest can sit at a restaurant while your older child plays waiter and chef.  Talk about healthy eating while practicing handing play food back and forth with baby.  Point out colors, shapes, practice counting.  Baby can eat and make a mess.

Create an obstacle course.  This one sounds  like you need a big house or something, but you don't.  Put a blanket over a coffee table to make a short tunnel.  Put a chair out to climb over.  Throw down some pillows to zig zag around.  This will help your older child burn off some energy while practicing gross motor skills.  Baby can enjoy playing in the tunnel and crawling around the objects.  Just changing the lay of the land challenges how they think about the world around them.



This list is just a jumping off point.  What are some of your favorite ways to foster play between your preschooler and baby sibling?

-Kim

Friday, February 24, 2017

Twin Gear- Essentials on a Budget

Two for the price of one!

You hear that a lot when people find out you are pregnant with twins.  To this I think most twin moms will say, "Ha!"  There is no buy one get one for having two babies, and you still need two of several baby items.  Fortunately you don't need two of everything, but you do need two of most of the basics.  So what do you actually need two of?  What can you skip?  What can you wait to buy?  I'm going to break it down for you.  First up will be what gear I actually used in the first few months with my girls.  For the second part I decided to do a little digital shopping to see how much this would all cost to buy new.  We were blessed with a lot of hand me downs and my husband's amazing garage sale shopping abilities, so we got some real deals.  But not everyone has the time or resources to do that kind of work.    I wanted to keep the initial investment as low as possible while sticking to products we have actually used as much as possible, and aimed for a $1000 budget.  That's $500 a baby, which I think is reasonable.  Let's do this.





First up is the list of the gear you will need in the first couple of months.

You need two:

Bassinets: AAP safety guidelines recommend a separate sleeping area for each baby.  The bassinet is only used for a short time, but it is handy to have something a little smaller that can be in your room.  I like the bassinets that top pack and plays.  That way when you are done with the top you still have a pack and play to use.

Cribs: Once your babies are in their own room they will need their own beds.  Most cribs these days convert into toddler beds, so despite having to buy two you will use it for a few years.

Crib mattresses: Two cribs, two mattresses.  It makes sense.

Car seats: If you want to drive anywhere, you need two car seats.  There is no way to get around this one.

Bouncer/swing/baby seat: I know this sounds mean, but sometimes you have to put the babies down.  You do need a place to put each baby.  Yes they need floor time, but the floor isn't always the best place, especially if you have older children running around.  I like the bouncer because they are easier to move to different parts of your house.  They are also very helpful for soothing two babies at once.  I think the bouncer is easier to customize the motion to the level of fuss.

There isn't really that much that you need literally two of them.  Unfortunately these are most of the big ticket items, making it more expensive.

There are only two twin specific items I could think of that we used this year.

Twin Specific:

Twin nursing pillow: I didn't use a pillow with my singleton, but with twins it made all the difference.

Double stroller: If you want to leave the house you need a way to get those babies around.  There are twin wraps for babywearing, but I prefer to use a stroller.  One person can push both babies with a double stroller.


Everything Else:

Other things (diapers, wipes, burp cloths, swaddles, outfits, blankets, toys, bottles if you are using them, pacifiers, etc) you need more of, but not necessarily a certain number.  If you are willing to do more laundry you can get by with fewer of these items.  I would buy some to start, but wait to get more until you see a real need.

Items the baby doesn't really interact with or things you know you will use one at a time you only need one of.  These are things like a monitor, a sound machine (although if your twins have different rooms you may need two), baby bath, and pump.

Items to skip:

There are two big items I would skip.  This is personal preference, but I actually had these items available when the girls were newborns and didn't use them.

Changing table: I changed my girls on a table once.  Now, I used it all the time with just one baby.  But with two it is way easier to  just camp out on the floor.  I know, it doesn't sound fancy, but it is way faster.

Glider or rocker:
I used a rocker when nursing one baby.  Two babies mean you need way more room.  We didn't want to spend the money on another furniture item so we skipped this and it worked out just fine.  I could nurse on the couch.  As the girls got older they started to be impatient if they finished first.  Nursing on the floor meant the early finisher could gently roll off the pillow and get back to playing without disturbing her sister.

How much will it cost?

How much can you expect to spend on all your twin gear?  Well as little as possible would be the goal.  I decided to see what I could find on Amazon, everyone's favorite online store, to get everything I need as cheaply as possible.  (These prices were as I found them as of the original publication date of this post, 2/24/17.  They may have changed with time.) These are all either the products we actually used, or as close as I could find.



Twin Bassinet. I like using the pack and play with the bassinet top.  This way we can use the pack and play long after you no longer need the top.  Sadly the twin one is more expensive.  You could go ahead and get two of the regular bassinet  for about the same price.  We didn't have room for that in our room, so the double it was for us.  Pack and play with twin bassinet top: $129.59.

Crib. This is one of the most basic model cribs I could find.  I really feel like cribs have gone a little nuts these days.  You can get giant cribs with all sorts of bells and whistles.  Yes, a lot of them are beautiful.  But you know what I have learned?  Kids like to chew on cribs.  Kids like to use their cribs to climb on and mess around.  And where do you leave your children without direct supervision the most?  Their cribs.  This leaves them open to all sorts of issues.  Add to that with twins you could be putting two cribs in one room.  That takes up a lot of space!  I wanted the safest, most simple crib I could get for the cheapest price.  This one still has three mattress height levels for safety.  It can still be converted into a toddler bed.  There is some cost variance with different finishes.  But for having to buy two I went with the cheapest.  Crib: $99.99.  For two: $199.98.

Crib Mattress. This is an item I wouldn't necessarily go on just price for.  I mean, your baby is going to spend a lot of time sleeping on this mattress.  And I know I've mentioned a time or two how much I don't like messing with sleep.  Plus a quality mattress can help lower some SIDS risk.  Worth the extra money in my mind.  This mattress still has a waterproof cover.  This is a huge bonus when (not if, when) your little one has a diaper blowout all over the bed.  Splurge on a little more expensive mattress and save elsewhere.  Safety and sleep matter.  Mattress: $58.99. For two: $117.98.

Crib Sheets. It is super fun to get the cute themed out ones, but really babies don't care.  Grab a two pack to start.  When our babies were newborns they were swaddled and we put burp clothes under them to sleep, so they didn't really touch the sheets for a few months.  You can buy more as you need them.  Crib sheet two pack: $11.96

Car Seat. We have used Graco Snugride 30 car seats with all three of our kids.  I really like them.  We were actually in a multi-car collision when my oldest was a baby.  He was in this car seat and was completely fine.  So sadly I have tested this one out.  They are decently lightweight, easy to snap baby into, and easy to load into the base.  With twins I really enjoy having the bucket style car seat that can be taken in and out of the car.  It is way easier to load the girls up inside and carry them both out to the car instead of bringing one to the car and strapping her in, then going to get the other.  It might sound strange but when you are out and about it is nice to sometimes have a place to put your baby down.  The car seat is already with you, making it perfect for this.  This car seat is rear facing only, but babies should stay rear facing for as long as possible.  It is good for babies as small as four pounds, which is good because twins are often on the smaller side.  This seat comes with the base, which is awesome for easy loading.  It can also be used without the base, good to know if you are going out of town with it.  Car seat: $71.99.  For two: $143.98.

Stroller. This snap and go stroller is awesome.  It is just the frame of a double stroller, but most bucket car seats snap into it.  (The Graco Snugride does, another bonus of getting that style car seat.)  Since this is just a frame, it takes up way less space when folded up and fits easily into the trunk of a car.  It is way cheaper than most twin strollers you will find.  It is easy to use and easy to fold up.  We use ours almost every day.  I was able to find mine used, which is awesome.  They are very twin specific item though, so it can be a challenge to track one down.  If you have one they are easy to resell.  I have literally had a car pull over and ask to buy mine out from under my girls while we were out on a walk.  If you have a toddler you might be thinking about how you will use a stroller with all three kids.  My eldest was two and a half when the girls were born and he has walked everywhere since then.  As much as I want to say twins don't hold you back, babies in general can limit some of the places you go and the amount of time you are out.  It has never been an issue for us to have our son walk. We do still have an umbrella stroller.  My thinking is if we are going somewhere major enough to be concerned a toddler can't walk the whole time, I will probably have another adult with me to push the extra stroller.  This snap and go is long, and honestly a bit of a boat to push around.  But it is easier to maneuver than some side by side ones, in my opinion.  The front to back method makes it easier to get through doorways, a huge plus.  We use this stroller pretty much every day, making it a worthwhile investment.  Stroller: $67.99.

Nursing Pillow. I should really work for this company I have plugged this pillow so much.  But seriously, I love it.  It is worth every penny.  Speaking of, I did the math and for the number of times I used it during the year it comes out to about four cents a use.  Since it is a twin pillow, that is actually two cents per baby a feed.  That is a good deal.  This pillow really helped me position the girls when they were newborns, and it still helps me hold both girls to feed them thirteen months later.  This is my top product for any twin mom.  Nursing Pillow: $49.97.

Bigger Bouncer or Smaller Bouncer. Okay, I have two choices here.  The first one is the bouncer we had with Ben.  We had another smaller one much like the smaller bouncer listed here at the office.  I started off using the smaller bouncer with the girls.  The drawback to that one is that I didn't feel like newborns are as well supported in it.  The girls would slip and tilt to the side, even when strapped in.  We had a small house with a two year old running around, so the bigger bouncer gave me a better sense of safety for the girls while they were in it.  This sort of purchase can a bit of a gamble.  My son loved his bouncers.  He adored being in them and was so happy to be bounced.  He used them until he was too big.  The girls lost interest a little earlier, around 7 months when they got mobile.  After that point they still came in handy for soothing the girls.  Both types of bouncers vibrate and have a removable toy bar to look at.  Let me tell you, my babies all adored the birds on the big bouncer.  Crazy loved them.  I think this is one you really have to consider the size of your home, your planned use, and if you have other little kids running around (or pets).  I actually like the foot bouncing as opposed to automatic ones.  You can give the level of bounce your baby wants, then taper off if they fall asleep.  This limits dependence on bouncing to sleep in my mind.  Big bouncer: $45.21. For two: $90.42.  Smaller bouncer: $19.50. For two: $39.00.  This is a decent difference, but if you can swing the bigger bouncer I would recommend it.

Alright, that is all the big items you will need to purchase.  The total? $811.87. Not too bad!  Only $760.45 if you go with the smaller bouncers.  After the big things you can make more choices based on price and preferences.

Bathtub. Simple, works in a sink and later sitting in a tub (uses less water and helpful to contain baby)  The plastic is very easy to clean, even the cushion for baby to sit on.  The newborn sling helps keep your little ones out of the water while you get them all clean.  $17.98

Sound Machine. This one has six sounds to choose from.  It also has the option to play continuously or set a time limit.  It can be plugged in or use battery power.  It is small and sturdy, making it great to travel with. $19.97.

Monitor. Video monitors are fun, but they are also more expensive.  And no, you don't need one.  The sound ones work just fine.  This one has a parent unit that can be battery operated to carry around with you.  I have a small enough home that I rarely used a monitor with the girls.  (First time mom me used it with my son all the time.  My girls have always been, well, loud.)  If you have such a large home that you might not be able to hear the babies, well, then you can probably afford the fancier monitors.  $17.98

Swaddles. We got by with three swaddles.  One per girl and a backup in case of emergency.  They always had jammies on underneath, so they weren't directly touching the swaddle and didn't mess them up often.   These are my all time favorite.  They are easy to use and really keep babies snug.  $19.94

Small Blankets. These small blankets can work in several ways.  We put them on the bouncers for easier cleaning.  We put them on the floor for the babies to lay on.  They can work as burp cloths.  They can be tiny blankets for when baby is napping by you.  They are a little harder to swaddle with, but it can be done in a pinch.  We put these cloths on every surface the babies were on.  It is way easier to do a load of laundry than clean spit up off of some things.  Some babies are big spitters.  We had burp cloths everywhere with my son.  My girls weren't really, so we didn't need as many.  I would start with two packs for twins and then reassess what you need based on your baby.  $21.98 (for two packs of 4)

Clothing.  You will need some clothing for your babies.  I would get a couple of newborn sleepers and onesies to start with.  Babies grow so fast and vary in size so much it can be hard to know what to get.  My son fit into newborn clothes for like a week.  The girls lasted much longer.  If your twins come early you may need preemie clothes.  I would get a couple of staples then wait and order what you need as you go.  There are a lot of variables to clothes- climate, time of year, and personal taste really play in to this, hence no personal recommendation.  I'd set aside about $50 for this.  (And not to depend on others, but people love to buy twins clothes, so hold off on spending too much.)

Diapers, diaper cream, wipes.  Costco has cheap ones.  We love Target brand and find it very affordable.  I don't like to recommend certain brands for these because different babies can have such different reactions to creams and diapers.  Get some newborn diapers, but if in doubt stock up on size one.  You can always get more newborn if you find you need them.  Approximate cost: Diapers: $22 per pack (around 176 diapers). Cream: $3.50. Wipes: $15 for a pack of 8.

Soap and lotion: We got by on the hospital samples for some time.  Same as with the diapers, you might have to try a few types to see what works with your baby's skin.  Approximate cost: $7.59 for Johnson and Johnson double pack.

Pump. Insurance should cover this now, so free!

Bottles. We nursed, so I don't know a lot about bottles.  I do know with my firstborn I was able to get sample bottles from formula companies for free.  Try that first and see what your baby likes before investing a ton into bottles.  If you go this route you might be able to skip the nursing pillow and use that money for formula and bottle needs.

Add it all up!

Alright, that was a lot!  Let's add in the extras to get an approximate cost before the babies even show up.  That is around $195.94 for the extras.  If you go for the smaller bouncers we are at $956.39.  If you splurge on the bigger bouncer you are at $1007.81!   Yes, it is over our goal of $1000, but we are pretty darn close.  Shopping sales, waiting on things you might not need right away (like monitors if your babies are sleeping in your room.) This list is just a jumping off point.  You will need more as your babies grow and you get to know what works best for your family.  But this shows that it is possible to get set up for your twins for a reasonable price!

One last bonus of twins- some places do actually give you a discount if you buy two of the same bit items.  Baby's R Us gives 10% off two identical items over $100, for example.  Some of these need to be bought in store, but hey it can save money!  Check out the following sites for twin discounts.
Twinniversity- multiple birth discounts
Very Well- Discounts and freebies for twins and multiples
Twin Pregnancy-discounts for twins
The Twin Coach-discounts and deals

There are more if you google twin discounts.  And if you have a product you really love email them, you just might get some coupons.

Having twins is big, especially financially.  But it doesn't have to break the bank.  You can do this.

-Kim

These are just some suggestions.  I would love to hear what other deals or advice twin moms have!  Comment and let me know where you found a deal or what you found you did/didn't need with twins.



Monday, February 20, 2017

The hardest part of having twins



One comment I hear a lot that I didn't mention in my previous question post is I always wanted twins!  I usually just smile and nod at this.  I don't want to open up a whole can of worms on someone that it isn't always that great.  I don't want to scare people off if they are expecting twins.  And overall I don't like to focus on the hard parts of life.  I want to be positive.  I mean, what is the point of focusing on the tough stuff?  I love having my girls.  It is a wonderful experience to be right here in the front row to watch two tiny babies who look so alike grow into their own distinct people.  But there are parts that are hard.  Sometimes when I hear I always wanted twins, I really want to tell them No, you don't.  

There are a lot of hard parts to just physically having twins.  Higher pregnancy complications and risks.  Increased chance of preterm birth.  Increased chance of NICU time.  Increased costs (two for the price of one is a big ole lie) of more children than you planned for.

There are increased worries when you have twins.  Am I treating them as too much of a unit instead of individuals?  What if I can't tell them apart?  Is my singleton going to get jealous because he isn't a twin?

There is the increase in just actual care you have to do with two babies.  Changing two diapers, nursing two babies, helping two babies learn to sleep through the night, getting out of the house with two little ones.

These things are all hard, but you get used to it.  You get past the pregnancy and birth.  You plan and budget for two of everything.  You find people with whom to talk about your worries.  You learn the personalities of your little ones and grow more confident you can tell them apart.  You realize your kids, singleton and twins, will never know life as being different and they will be fine.

The hardest thing is that I can't hold both my babies at the same time.  Oh, you can physically hold them at the same time.  When they are little you can scoop them both up to move them around.  Now that they are bigger they can crawl into my lap together.  When I nurse them they are both on the pillow with me.  But you can't hold them the way babies need to be held at the same time.

When you have one baby, you can hold that baby in your arms and focus your entire self on that little creature.  You can feel their heartbeat against yours and know that even if they are crying, you are doing just the right thing for them.  You are holding them and giving them your all.  When you have two babies your attention is always split.  When I am holding both of them I am constantly making sure they are physically supported enough.  I am thinking through what to do if one of them suddenly wiggles or flings herself.  When they were newborns I was making sure I could put them down safely.  Now that they are bigger I am making sure they aren't trying to grab each other's faces or stealing each other's toy.  I'm rarely just in the moment enjoying being together, there are too many other factors to be thinking about.

One of the biggest things babies need in the early months and through the first year of life is to be held.  Studies have shown that babies thrive with hugs.  They are calmed by being held by their mothers.  When they are teething, or tired, or just overwhelmed by all the new around them, their mothers arms keep them feeling safe, reassured, and happy.  I try to give each girl that much needed time.  But when I hold one baby I am still thinking about her sister.  I feel torn, holding and loving one girl but at the same time trying to look at and smile at her sister so she knows I see her too.  When I am trying to soothe one girl through teething pains, there is another who needs her mother too.  When one girl is giggly and wants her mother to love on her and look at her, her sister is there wanting the same thing.  Your attention is constantly divided.  Yes, their father is around to take care of them.  Sometimes we have people staying with us who can help hold one of the girls.  It isn't the same as mother holding her baby.

I know as the girls get bigger this will get easier.  Babies grow into toddlers who just want to run and play.  Then they grow into preschoolers who are working to gain independence.  They still need their mothers hugs, but not as frequently and not as often at the same moment.  As they get older it will be more like every other family with three kids.  But when they are little babies they need your physical body.  There is a magical moment when you pick up your baby and they sigh and just relax into you.  All is right with the world, they are with Mommy.  With twins that moment is shadowed by the reminder that there is another little girl who needs you just as much, and she have to wait.   At an age when it should be all about them, when their needs should come first, twins have to learn to wait for their mother's arms.

I wouldn't change having my girls for anything.  Any twin mom can tell you it is the double blessing most people think it is.  But it isn't easy, and it isn't something I would tell people they should totally try to do.  I may have twice the cuteness, twice the belly laughs, and twice the smiles.  But my girls only have half the full-on undivided attention, half the special one on one time getting loved on by mommy.  They won't ever know the difference.  It's just their life.  But I know the difference.  That is the hardest part of having twins.

-Kim

Friday, February 17, 2017

One year of twin schedules

Here it is! The recap of all the schedules we have used for Ali and Sammy in their first year of life.  This is the bare bones basics, mainly eating and sleeping.  Check out the twin schedules page to get more detail on the specific months.  Sometimes transitioning from schedule to schedule can take place over a few weeks.  With this list it is easy to compare months and figure out where to make adjustments for your little ones.
-Kim



Newborn
No schedule.  Nurse on demand and sleep when they want.  

1 Month
Still no big schedule.  A routine of nursing every 2 to 2.5 hours, sleep when they want.
8 am: Daily wake time (DWT) and nurse
Into bassinet at night: 10pm when I went to bed

2 Months
8am: DWT and nurse
9am: Nap
10:45am: Up and nurse
12pm: Nap
1:15pm: Up and nurse
2:15pm: Nap
4pm: Up and Nurse
6:15pm: Nurse
7:15-9pm: Nap and cluster feed as needed
9pm: Upstairs to nurse and into bed
Middle of the night: Nurse as needed, usually 2-3 times

3 Months
7:45am: DWT and nurse
8:45am: Nap
10:30am: Up and nurse
11:30am: Nap
12:45pm: Up
1:30pm: Nurse
2pm: Nap
4:30pm: Up and nurse
5:30-6pm: Nap off and on in bouncer
6:30pm: Nurse then to bed
9pm: Dream feed
Middle of the night: Nurse once, usually between 4am and 5am
(Around 15 weeks was when we switched from cluster feeds as needed to the dream feed.)

4 Months
7:30am: DWT and nurse
9am: Nap
11am: Up and nurse
11am-1:30pm: Activities and catnap on the go
2pm: Nurse
2:30pm: Nap
4:30pm: Up and nurse
6:45pm: Nurse and bedtime
9:30pm: Dream feed (dropped at 19 weeks)

5 Months
7:30am: DWT and nurse
9am: Nap
11am: Up and nurse
12-1pm: catnap as needed
1:45pm: Nurse
2pm: nap
4:30pm: Up and nurse
6:45pm: Nurse and bedtime

6 Months
7:30am: DWT and nurse
9am: Nap
11am: Up and nurse
1:45pm: Nurse
2pm: Nap
4:30pm: Up and nurse
6:45pm: Nurse and bedtime
Note: Solids sporadic and just for learning and fun.

7 Months
7:30am: DWT and nurse
9am: Nap
11am: Up and nurse
1:45pm: Nurse
2pm: Nap
4:30pm: Up and nurse
6:45pm: Nurse 
7pm: Bedtime
Note: Solids starting with family meal times, but not a big part of their nutrition yet.

8 Months
7:15am: DWT
7:30am: Nurse
8am: Solids breakfast
9am: Nap
11am: Up and nurse
11:45am: Solids lunch
1:45pm: Nurse
2pm: Nap
4:30pm: Up and nurse
5:30pm: Solids dinner
6:45pm: Nurse
7pm: Bedtime

9 Months
7:15am: DWT
7:30am: Nurse
8am: Solids breakfast
9am: Nap
11am: Up and nurse
12pm: Solids lunch
1:45pm: Nurse
2pm: Nap
4:30pm: Up and nurse
5:30pm: Solids dinner
6:45pm: Nurse
7pn: Bedtime

10 Months
7:15am: DWT
7:30am: Nurse
7:50am: Solids breakfast
9am: Nap
11am: Up and nurse
11:45am: Solids lunch
2pm: Nap
4:30pm: Up and nurse
5:30pm: Solids dinner
6:45pm: Nurse
7pm: Bedtime

11 Months
7:15am: DWT
7:30pm: Nurse
7:50am: Solids breakfast
9am: Nap
11am: Up and nurse
11:45am: Solids lunch
1:50pm: Nurse
2pm: Nap
4:15pm: Up
4:30pm: Nurse
5:30pm: Solids dinner
6:45pm: Nurse
7pm: Bedtime

12 Months
7:15am: DWT
7:30am: Nurse
7:45am: Solids breakfast
9am: Nap
11am: Up and nurse
12pm: Solids lunch
1:45pm: Nurse
2pm: Nap
4:15pm: Up
5:30pm: Solids dinner
6:45pm: Nurse
7pm: Bedtime

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

First Birthday Party!

We had a great birthday party for Ali and Sammy's first birthday.  We kept it small.  I mean, Ali and Sammy didn't really know what was going on.  The celebration is for them, but it is also for Pat and me as the parents.  We made it to a year!  Woot!
We did a simple party here at home.  We grilled up hot dogs, had some family over, and of course played hard.  The big kids got to run around outside.  Sammy and Ali got some very nice gifts.  Oh, and there was cake!  Isn't that the best part of every party?  I made the girls smash cakes.  Just a simple banana cake with cream cheese frosting and banana slices.  Like Ben, the girls weren't super into them.  In part because they had just eaten lunch.  I think one downside of doing BLW (and there are very few downsides) is that my babies haven't been in to their smash cake.  They have been feeding themselves for months now, it isn't a new adventure to get to touch the food.  They know how to eat, and know they can not eat if they don't want to.  Basically they taste the cake, think it's too sweet, and stop eating.  Probably for the best, that much sugar can't be good for them.

Getting ready to party!
Ben was rocking his big brother shirt for the occasion.  Happy one year anniversary of being a big brother!
Ali, Aunt Gail, Meo, and Sammy!  Party time!
Benson playing cars under the table, Sammy playing cars under the table.  Good times with cousins.
Hugs!  These two love to play!
Sammy and Ali adore being wherever their big cousin Peyton is.
The play zone- pre total destruction. :P
Presents!  Thank you everyone
Ben helped with some of the unwrapping.  It's a big brother's job.
Loving Uncle Evan and Aunt Jessee!  
These girls were loving all the attention
I didn't go big with decorations.  With our little house and five kids running around there was enough going on.  I couldn't resist decorating Sammy and Ali's chairs for their cakes though!  The girls found the decorations to be pretty interesting themselves.  Almost more interesting then the cakes.
Cake for the birthday girls!  (Ali L, Sam R)
They really just poked around at the cake and ate the bananas.  Much like Ben when he was one.
Ben picked out the cake.  He was so proud of getting his sisters Minnie Mouse!
I love putting up the month pictures from the year and seeing how much my babies have grown!

Thank you to the family that was able to make it to the party!  We loved having you there to celebrate with us.  And we totally know that not everyone can drop everything and travel for a kid's birthday party, so thank you to the far away family who sent lots of love to our girls.  It was a fun little party, and a great way to celebrate our sweet girls.

-Kim


I loved the party dresses I found for the girls.  A drawback to twins is if you find a cute outfit you need to buy two!  Their one pink party dresses were inexpensive and perfect for the party!  (affiliate link)