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Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Toddler stand off

Dear Toddler,

We appear to be in a standoff.  Things might get worse before they get better.  They have already escalated quickly.  I understand.  You're angry.  You're a little scared.  You aren't sure how this is all going to play out.  Let me help you.  I know how this is going down.  

First of all let me tell you that we want the same thing.  What do you want?  You want your sock back on, and you want your pants on.  I really do want the same thing.  I know in your mind this is all my fault.  You didn't ask to have your diaper changed. I did that to you.  The only way to defend yourself was obviously to take off your sock and throw it at me.  Here's the thing- that doesn't scare me.  True, I have a known hatred and disgust for used socks.  That does not include yours though.  I clean your poop every day.  I have caught your vomit in my bare hands.  The fact is very little coming from you can disgust me enough to not deal with it.  And your socks are still tiny and cute.  No one is scared of them.

The thing is, you've over played your hand.  You keep showing me your bare foot and crying.  You point to your naked legs and complain.  I have what you want- the sock and the pants.  Yet you refuse to come near me.  You have nothing to negotiate with.  I am sitting in front of the only exit to the room.  All your toys are outside this room. Your sippy, your snacks, your freedom.  All of this lies through me.  

I am no longer going to negotiate with you.  I know how this all turns out.  You want me to chase you down and make this a game.  What you failed to take into account is that I am seven months pregnant with twins and already sitting down.  I can wait you out, no problem.  I suggest you look at the facts, accept that you have lost this battle, and let me put your sock and pants on you.  No one needs to end up in time out over this.  I don't want that, you don't want that.  Let me help you.  Give up this losing fight and we can all go about our day.

Your move, Toddler.

Love,
Negotiator Mommy

Friday, November 20, 2015

The usual weekend outing

This past weekend was the usual drill- nice day, get to the park to walk around and enjoy it!  I am so glad we did, seeing as it is supposed to snow tomorrow.  We decided not to go to our usual state park, and instead hit up one that is a little closer to home.  It's good to change it up sometimes.  And honestly we were lazy and didn't get moving until pretty late in the day.  

Things were pretty ordinary on this particular outing, so I won't go into too much detail.  The pictures are cute and tell the story pretty well.  It was a lovely family outing.

I am so glad we got at least one more outing this fall.  I am hoping for more, but we'll see how the weather holds out.  We are all so excited for the girls to arrive this winter, but I know I'll miss these special times as a family of three.  I love that Ben can reach up and grab both his parents hands.  I love that he has our full attention.  (I also love the simplicity of only worrying about one child ;) )  Soon enough though I will be loving being a family of five!!





Adorable tiny hiker!!

Comparing walking sticks
Ben always wants to be just like Daddy


-Kim

Wednesday, November 18, 2015

Shooting hoops!

A couple of weeks ago Ben and I were out for a walk.  We sometime go to the school across the street to play on the playground there.  This particular day, we got lucky and found a couple of balls left out.  I decided it was a good time to teach Ben how to play basketball.  I actually played basketball for several years when I was younger, even making the high school team for a bit.  Granted all that really means is I do actually understand the basic rules and skills needed to play the game.  It by no means implies that I am good at it, or still have those skills.  I like I think I can teach Ben a thing or to about it though.

Since he is new to the game, and the ball almost comes up to his waist, I decided to go right to shooting.  I know ball handling is important, and defense wins games.  But scoring is fun.  The first hoop we tried might have been a bit too high for Ben though...

Slight height difference between Ben and the basket...

Ben gave the ball a good heave to get it up there, but it didn't quite make it.  I thought about holding him up to dunk, but then realized I'm not that tall either.  Fortunately the school has a couple of smaller hoops as well as the full size ones.

I think Ben still needs a couple of inches to really get into the game.  He had a lot of fun throwing the ball and chasing it around.  I have to say I love this age Ben is at.  He clapped for me any time I made a basket.  He really knows how to make his mom feel good about her athletic abilities (especially with the belly right now!).


He's still so tiny compared to the hoop!


Ben had fun chasing the ball around.  I had fun pretending to be an awesome basketball star.  (I mean, how fun is it to have a short hoop?  I feel like a rock star when I play)  I hope Ben gets enjoyment out of sports when he is older.  He doesn't have to be the best or super competitive, but the joy of the game is something I know Pat and I hope to pass on.  Of course if he doesn't that is fine too.  Until then I am going to enjoy letting him think I have skills well beyond what I actually do.  ;)

-Kim

Monday, November 16, 2015

General silliness

While I miss the times when Ben would sit still for me to take pictures of him, I do enjoy the random fun action shots I can get now that he is a busy toddler.  Here are a few of the fun shots I've grabbed in the past week or so.

We had some cooler days, meaning we had to switch the awesome hoodie for a regular coat.  Ben was a little less than thrilled with this.  What helped?  The amazing monkey hat.  Here he is running through the office, happy as can be to be wearing his monkey hat.



Omi has been cleaning out some stuff from the storage room at the office.  He managed to unearth a little toy called a tonette.  Yep, it's basically a slightly smaller, worse sounding recorder.  (Do they still make kids play those in elementary school?)  Ben loves it.  Fortunately he can't make a ton of sounds on it yet, and he does have a short attention span for it.  I think it will stay an office toy.  Unless somehow it mysteriously ends up at Meo and Omi's house...  I have gotten a few personal serenades since Ben got it.




Oh, the rough life of a two year old.  Every morning I am sure Ben would rather be playing downstairs with his toys, or watching tv, or really doing anything other than wait while I finish getting ready.  But being two, well, there is no way I'm leaving him alone for very long.  Lucky for me Ben has many ways of amusing himself.  This one happens more often than you would think.  Why not put a laundry basket on your head?  He thinks it is hilarious every time.  I have to say it makes getting ready for work a bit more fun.


I never know what sort of silliness will happen yet.  But I'm glad I get to be there to see it.  And I am also thankful for camera phones that let me capture this stuff.


-Kim

Friday, November 13, 2015

BFBN Week: When to make changes to your baby's schedule

Today we have a guest to the BFBN posting for us!  Katrina from Mama's Organized Chaos is posting for us about when to make changes to your baby's schedule.  I think babywise is awesome at providing a guideline for setting up schedules and making transitions with your baby.  But every baby is different.  I know Ben held on to naps longer than babywise said he would, and longer than some of my friend's children.  He needed that sleep though, so we followed his cues to dropping them.  Katrina points out some signs to look for to help know when to tweak and full out change the schedule.  Check out her post for some great tips.

Next week I'll be back to posting fun Ben pictures and stories, so be sure to check out all the great blogs we've had this week!


-Kim

Thursday, November 12, 2015

BFBN Week: Sensory play

Our next blogger for today is Carrie from Wiley Adventures.  Kids love to explore the world around them using their different senses.  Carrie has some great ideas for how to really focus in on specific senses through play time.  I am going to try some of these ideas with Ben!

And of course check out all the bloggers this week!


-Kim

BFBN Week: Ideas for success with independent play

Today we have two bloggers highlighted to talk about play!  The first is Stephanie from Giving it Grace.  She has some great tips to implement and work with independent play.  It can be hard at first, for both the child and the mom.  But she has some great suggestions and real life experience for how she worked through it with her son.  Be sure to check it out!

And of course check out all the bloggers this week!


-Kim

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

BFBN Week: Homemade toys

I love being able to fashion toys out of items around the house.  Honestly, kids love to play with the 'real thing' sometimes more than their toys.   I think it inspires creativity and allows me to save some money. If they break or get worn out, I don't really care.  Most are easily replaceable.  A final plus is it allows me to be more creative when we are out and about.  Every so often we find ourselves out somewhere with nothing for Ben to play with.  Being able to scrounge up something safe and fun can be a lifesaver.  Here are some of my favorite 'toys' from around the house.

1)  Tupperware.  I think this is one every mother knows about.  Ben loves playing with Tupperware.  He can match up different lids.  He can stack them.  He can put different things into them and dump them out.  It's plastic, so no worries about breaking them.  And even if he did, Tupperware is relatively cheap and can easily be replaced.  I love this option around the house because if we are away from home and find ourselves without toys I can always ask if they have Tupperware.

2) Old food containers.  I take anything- sour cream containers, large yogurt containers, oatmeal canisters- clean it out, and hand it over for Ben to play with.  It has all the same advantages of Tupperware.  The big difference is that I don't have to take this toy back when I need to store leftovers.  :)  Old Kleenex boxes are great for storing small toys and pulling them out.  Egg cartons can be little nests for small toys.  When Ben was younger I put scraps of cloth in them for Ben to pull out as well.  He loved it.  Bigger tubs can double as drums, stacking toys, and sorting cups.

3) Boxes.  You can see here how much Ben enjoys boxes.  (They aren't just for cats.)  When he is a little older we'll let him color and decorate them.  But for now just sitting in them is super fun.



Besides just cleaning out containers and handing them to Ben, I've used a few household items to create toys for Ben.  Sadly I don't have sources for most of these.  I have to say they are not all my ideas, and a lot of them came from the wonderful Ms. Cindy who used to work at our library.  She moved several months ago, but we miss her!

1) Shape sorter.  A lot of shape sorters can actually be frustrating for little kids.  If the shapes aren't lined up exactly right, the pieces often don't go through.  An alternative is to take a coffee can with a plastic lid, and cut a small x in the lid.  Then get some plastic golf balls or ping pong balls.  That's it!  I got the golf balls at the dollar store, 12 for $1.  Ben loves it!  And he has for some time.  At first he liked just watching us pop the balls in.  They make a fun sound as they hit the bottom of the can.  Now that he is bigger he likes popping them in himself.  The great thing about this toy is it stores the balls in itself.  Over time the x will spread out, but we just put a new lid on the can and it is ready to go!  With just the plain x on top, other toys fit inside too, making it even more fun for Ben.

Ben couldn't resist playing while I was trying to take pictures. :)
2) Coffee can bank.  Yes, another coffee can toy.  We drink a lot of coffee. ;)  Instead of cutting an x into the lid of this one I cut a little slot.  Then I gave Ben a bag of pennies, nickles, and dimes and let him go nuts.  I have tried to work on sorting the coins and counting, but he really just likes dumping them out and then putting them back into the slot again.  If course any bank could be used for this.  The coffee can is nice because it is big and easy to open and close.  And again, it makes fun sounds when you plop the coins in.



3)  Egg carton color sorter.  This is another one that takes about 2 minutes to put together.  I took an egg carton and colored little dots in the bottom of the cups.  Through this I am trying to work on colors with Ben.  Sure, most of the time he just puts anything he can find in them.  But I have found that the single piece mega blocks fit perfectly into the egg cups.  They offer a several colors to work with and practice naming.



4)  Egg carton straw toy.  I found this one on pinterest.  I took an egg carton and poked little holes in the underside of the cups.  Ben can take colored straws and put them in and out of the holes.  At first he was just able to pull the straws out, but now he can insert them himself.  It's kind of an ongoing abstract art piece.  An alternative to this is to use pipe cleaners and a spaghetti strainer.  Same idea- poke in the pieces and then pull them out again.



5)  Oatmeal canister ball drop.  I started this one by just taping paper towel tubes to the wall.  Ben would then take some puff balls (Dollar store find again!) and drop them down the tube.  Well, it quickly became he would drop anything he could cram down it in the tube.  I decided to try to make something with a little bigger hole.  I cut out a square from the base of the oatmeal canister.  I used this cardboard and taped it on a slant at the bottom of the canister so balls would use it as a ramp out of the hole.  (I put some wadded newspaper under it to give more support.)  This allows balls to kind of shoot out the bottom a little more.  He still tries to cram things down it that don't fit, but he loves playing with it!



All of these can be made cute with some construction paper and time, but I usually don't bother with that.  I like that they are easily replaced and that Ben loves them.  Real toys are great, but it is so nice when I can pull something together without spending much, if any, money.  I hope these ideas encourage other people to see what they can create for their kids too!



And of course check out all the bloggers this week!


-Kim

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

BFBN Week: 25 ways to bond with your kids that don't involve play!

Today we are looking at a different aspect of play- not playing with your children.  I know, that sounds strange.  I think Emily from The Journey of Parenthood explains it very well.  Sometimes it is hard to get down and actually play with our kids.  I know this is not one of my parenting strengths.  I like to think I have other strengths as a mother.  And I do get down on the floor and play with Ben.  It just isn't something I excel at or enjoy as much as other aspects of parenting.  Fortunately, Pat is a natural at playing with Ben.  Those two can hang out and play with toys way longer than I have the patience for.  I love the list Emily has put together of other ways to bond with our children.  I've used some of them and think I will try some more as Ben gets older!



And of course check out all the bloggers this week!




-Kim

Monday, November 9, 2015

BFBN Week: Independent Play in School Aged Children

It's a Babywise Friendly Blog Network Week!  This week I will be highlighting blogs all about different aspects of play.  Play is so important for children, and I really believe it is a learning experience for them every time.

Today Valerie from Chronicles of a Babywise Mom blogs about the importance of independent play in older children.  Ben is only two, so I can't speak from experience, but I think she has some great points on the importance of this play time.  I love independent play for Ben.  It encourages him to entertain himself, which is a skill I think all people need.  We still do this play time in a smaller space, so it encourages my busy boy to take a break and focus on just a few things, instead of running all over the place.  I have seen it build his confidence in himself and his ability to be on his own.  Plus, it allows me some time to get work done here at the office- a very necessary thing!  I plan to keep independent play time a part of our routine for a long time to come, and I will be introducing the girls to it when they are ready.   Read Valerie's blog to learn more!

Be sure to check out all the bloggers this week:



-Kim

Wednesday, November 4, 2015

Halloween picture wrap up

We already know that this Halloween's costumes didn't go as planned.  But that doesn't mean we didn't have a great holiday.  Ben enjoyed wearing his Halloween themed shirts all week.  He loved that we had little pumpkins out in our house, and pointed to them any time he saw a pumpkin on tv or in one of his books.  We watched Charlie Brown's The Great Pumpkin as a family, and he seemed to actually enjoy it this year.  Of course he liked the Toy Story special a lot better.  Given his current love for Buzz Lightyear that is to be expected.

Sadly we didn't get many trick or treaters this year.  In fact we got one family with 2 kids.  We were home for the early part of the afternoon trick or treating, but we went out to dinner with Meo and Omi during the prime time I think most kids were out.  Plus it was another rainy year, which often means fewer kids.  Oh well, more candy for Pat and me to get to eat!  We didn't take Ben out this year.  The big reason is I still feel he is too young.  I don't think he really gets what is going on, and I have no intentions of letting him eat very much, if any candy.  Don't get me wrong, he gets treats, but candy is not one of them.  Add to that he wasn't wearing a costume, which to me makes it seem a little more like blatant begging.   Halloween is Meo's birthday, and we enjoyed a great dinner out with her and Omi, plus some play time back at their house.

Once again, it was a quiet Halloween, but a nice one.  I for one enjoyed having one last Halloween without much going on.  Next year I am pretty certain Ben will know what is going on.  Having an older brother means the girls will figure it out much sooner as well.  I think we'll be out and about from here on out.

Rockin his Pizza Joe's Halloween shirt.
I miss their pizza!!
Looking adorable, even without a cape!
Office shot!  Yes, I wore my cat ears.  I love Halloween!
My growing family!!
-Kim

Monday, November 2, 2015

Happy Birthday, Joe and Ella!


Sigh, another day where I feel old.  My youngest niece and nephew turn 5 today.  Five.  No more toddler hood.  No more pretending they are still little ones barely out of diapers.  Five is the legit kid stage.  They are growing up so fast!  These two are a hoot.  They are energetic and caring.  They are both so good with their little cousin Ben.  They already let me know they can't wait to have two more cousins.  Pat and I are so lucky to be the uncle and aunt of these great kids.  We love you so much, Joe and Ella!!

Always on the move!
Coloring with Ben :)
I love these kids!!
-Kim